March 24, 2011 § Leave a comment
Bedtime, and I do not say this lightly, is bad. Lena’s completely out of her crib and the result is she’s just awake until at least ten o’clock every night, last night it was eleven.
It’s frustrating because this means between the hours of 8:30 and 10, when usually I would be catching up on some reading, watching Netflix, and generally relaxing with the only time during the day I have to myself, and instead I am policing Lena’s door, telling her to go back to bed, counting to ten, telling her she has to at least stay in her room, saying No, I will NOT snuggle with you, allowing yes, just one more hug, and then immediately switching back and yelling this time for her to go back to her room, and counting to ten again in a subsequently louder and more angry tone.
Oh, one might say, You are simply not being forceful enough.
To which I reply, is it really too much to ask that everything is not a fight? I know that disciplining my child well now will, like, help her do her homework ten years from now, or whatever, but I’m sorry. I’m selfish. I don’t want to be the bad guy at bedtime. I want her to just go to sleep on her own at 8:30.
These things are mutually exclusive, apparently.
My mom says, maybe I have a kid that just doesn’t need that much sleep. She went to bed at 11 PM last night, and we woke her up at 7:30 and she was happy as a clam. That is so unfair. Why do I need more sleep than my three year old? Nothing good can come of this.
So I do as any mother would do when things have come to the last resort.
I hit the internet.
I don’t know if y’all are aware of the craziness that is parental advice on the internet, and I’ll spare you the gory details, but basically, everyone is doing everything wrong and if you eat processed foods or you don’t breastfeed long enough or you do breastfeed too long or you sleep with your kid or you don’t sleep with you’re kid or you yell at your kid or you don’t yell at your kid. Holy shit, if you spend enough time reading what other moms (because let’s face it, it’s mostly moms) say on the internet, you come away questioning every parenting decision you’ve ever made. Or at least I do. Maybe I just have low self esteem.
I digress. I did find a couple of helpful suggestions. (I refuse to lie down with Lena until she falls asleep, and locking her in her room seems a bit drastic, and futile, I think she could figure out how to get out anyway.) So we’re going with positive reinforcement. I’m going to run out later to the store and get some colorful paper and some stickers, and reward her for the times she stays in her room nicely and goes to sleep. I also am going to try to put a cute lamp in her room soon that she can turn on and off, a nice alternative for the overhead light, (and maybe more likely for her to fall asleep with.)
This feels a little more proactive than me crying and pulling my hair and wondering, why me? WHY ME? when my kid is still yabbering away at eleven at night.
Go go gadget mommy!